Dear Some Lady,

I have a childhood “best” friend. We were inseparable from 6th grade through high school—visited each other as much as we could in undergrad—and spent all the time we could when we were home for the holidays. However, in the past 6 years, we have totally fallen off. We barely talk (only when I reach out to her) and I don’t think I have seen her since her wedding two years ago.
 
She still considers me my best friend, but I feel abandoned. I bottle it up and every so often I blow up at her, trying to end the friendship because I hate the “limbo” stage we have been stuck in. Over and over, she simply does not reach out and cannot make time for me. Do I insist on ending this friendship? Is it causing me more harm sitting around thinking we will be close again? Or does that seem harsh—in all senses of the word, we aren’t really “friends” anymore anyway.

Fondly, Abandoned in Friendly West Virginia

 

Dear Abandoned,